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Tommy’s Story


Tommy, was diagnosed with a heart condition but faced a wait of at least six months for surgery

“Dad went for a pre-op assessment for a minor operation. During the tests, the doctors realised he had a heart murmur. He was sent for an emergency scan, but five months of further tests followed before he was told that the condition was the result of a birth defect that hadn’t ever been picked up, and he needed an aortic valve replacement.

 “He was transferred over to the surgeon’s waiting list – he was looking at a 12 week wait to see the surgeon himself, and then at least another five months before operation would be carried out.

 His health was deteriorating before my eyes: he was out of breath all the time and extremely tired – he was plodding along, but struggling.

“Dad was stubborn, embarrassed even. He felt others were worse off than him and didn’t want to ask, but then he fell ill during a Lodge meeting and his Brethren stepped in.

The Advice & Support Team helped us with the forms and the whole process was plain and simple. Everyone involved was very courteous. Me and Mum burst into tears when we got the letter to say that the grant to fund Dad’s operation had been approved. It was a weight lifted.

“After the operation, the surgeon said that Dad wouldn’t be here if we’d waited six more months. Until then, they hadn’t realised how bad his heart condition truly was.

“Dad’s doing brilliantly now. He’s just going back to work and is looking forward to his first Masonic meeting.

“I want to say ‘thank you’. You’ve not just helped Dad – you’ve  changed our family life for the better. The four of us are the only family we have   and we are now able to do more together.”

Our Impact

St Cuthbert’s Hospice

The Family Support Team at St Cuthbert’s Hospice provides emotional, psychological, spiritual and practical support to individuals, children and families who are affected by life limiting illness, bereavement and grief. Pathways through bereavement In October 2019, St Cuthbert’s began working with a wide range of people from the local community to find out what kind…

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Hospice of the Good Shepherd

Bereavement Help Points in Cheshire This grant is helping the Hospice of the Good Shepherd to establish informal drop-in sessions in communities across Cheshire. These Bereavement Help Points offer a wide range of assistance; including emotional peer support, advice from trained volunteers, and printed resources to take away. They began work on the project in…

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St Elizabeth Hospice

This grant helped St Elizabeth Hospice in Ipswich to work with primary and secondary schools to improve support for pupils following bereavement. By giving teachers the skills to respond to their pupils’ grief early on, the project aims to prevent long-term difficulties in emotional well-being. Bereavement training for schools In September 2019 the Emotional Wellbeing…

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Bolton Hospice

Specialist training for local teachers The grant allowed the Bolton Hospice education team to develop specialist training for local teachers to support teenagers going through a bereavement. The training will help to improve the experience of teenagers dealing with loss, grief and bereavement, providing school staff with the knowledge and skills they need to support…

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