Issue 2: Spring/Summer 2017
Care, Respite
Carry on caring
When you care for someone like Sheila, you don’t get a single minute to yourself.
In the first issue of Better Lives, we spoke to Ian, a full-time carer for his wife Sheila who has early-onset dementia and Alzheimer’s as well as osteoporosis.
Ian is just one of many Freemasons for whom caring for an elderly, chronically ill or disabled family member is simply part of daily life. We believe no one should be expected to face the challenges of caring alone, so we provide grants to cover the cost of respite care for many Freemasons and their family members.
What is respite care?
Respite care is any care arrangement designed to give rest or relief to unpaid carers so that they are able to carry on caring. There are different types of respite care available to support you and your loved one – each works on the basis of two principles: you need to share the responsibility for care giving and you need to get support for yourself.
What type of respite care is best for you?
When deciding what type of care to go for, you’ll need to start by analysing the needs of your family member and yourself – if you are unsure, our Advice & Support Team can help you with this. As a caregiver, what do you need most? Regular support throughout the day or a short-term break from your responsibilities every once in a while? It’s a good idea to keep track of your daily activities and make a list of the areas and times when you most need help.
Identifying your loved one’s requirements, abilities and preferences will also help you find the right match. Do they require assistance with walking, eating or medications? Are they in need of mental stimulation or exercise?
Answering these questions will help you determine which respite options to pursue. Once you have decided, get in touch with us – just like these people:
Domiciliary respite care
Suitable if your family member depends on you for help with personal care and other household tasks.
If you provide substantial care for a family member, it may be possible to arrange for a carer to visit at home and help with any daily activities you cannot safely manage on your own such as helping them to get dressed or showered. How often the carer visits and for how long depends on your individual requirements.
Reginald and Jeanette
“Dad’s health started to deteriorate as he got older so he needed a carer to help him around the house. At first he was paying for the service out of his own pocket but money was so tight it got to the point where he wouldn’t put the heating or lights on and would buy out-of-date food.
A friend of Dad’s heard that he was struggling and told us about the MCF. Terry from the Advice & Support Team visited us at home and helped us with the application form. Soon after sending off the forms, we received grants to pay for Dad’s domiciliary care which has been vital as we recently had to increase the number of visits to four per day. Having the funding takes the pressure off both of us and dad doesn’t panic about not being able to afford it anymore.”
– Jeanette, Reginald’s daughter
Day respite care
Suitable if your family member lives at home but is isolated or lonely.
Adult day centres are designed for older people who can no longer manage independently, or who are isolated or lonely. The centres operate during the day and planned activities promote wellbeing in a safe, supportive and cheerful environment.
Alec and Linda
Alec: “I had to retire due to poor health and underwent two heart bypasses. My mobility declined and my daughter, Linda, moved to live closer to me so she could help around the house.”
Linda: “I have been caring for Dad with the help of my husband now for about 11 years. I visit Dad twice a day, seven days a week and he has a buzzer to call me any time, day or night. I enjoy caring for Dad but it can be overwhelming at times and my own health began to suffer due to the stress. It’s the loneliness that’s the worst – I am with Dad most days but he needs other people around him, not just me. The MCF pays for Dad to go to a day centre twice a week which helps with his loneliness but also allows me to spend time with my husband, children and grandchildren or focus on work.”
Alec: “I’ve got a lovely family, lovely neighbours and wonderful brethren. I want the brethren of my lodges to know how grateful I am and how thankful I am for all the help and support they’ve given me in the last 50 years of Freemasonry. Without them, I don’t know what I would do.”
Residential respite care
Suitable if you need a short break to look after your own health and wellbeing.
If you are unable to carry out your caring responsibilities due to short-term ill health or simply needing a rest, residential care may be suitable. The person you are caring for will go for a short stay in a residential or nursing home.
We can fund up to six weeks of residential respite care which can be used at any point within a 12-month period.